Self Care Starts From Within

“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” ~ Buddhist teaching How often do you give your […]

My Love, Valuable? Who Knew?

Maybe you don’t feel obligated or stuck in “having” to give, but you also never thought about the value of your love, and what it really means to those who receive the gift of your love. When you give something (your time, your love, your affection, your caring, etc.) that you don’t think has any […]

Giving It Away – Should You Keep It For Yourself Instead?

Have you ever thought about the love you “give away,” and what that really means? Do you notice that you are often doing things for others – and feel like the scale is always tipped in their favor, never in yours? Or have you just operated on automatic pilot, going through the behaviors of caring […]

Top 5 Tips for Siblings Caring for Aging Parents

We’re all familiar with our buttons being pushed – can’t really avoid it if we interact with other human beings. When that happens we often go into reactive mode, with old beliefs kicking in to muddy the waters, and old behaviors showing up without our even thinking about it. It’s a big part of how […]

Sibling Strife Part 3: When Outgrown Childhood Roles Cause Static

What to Do When Outdated Childhood Roles Cause Static in Caring for Elderly Parents I’m going to make a bold statement and say that the quality of your relationships with your siblings is one of the biggest determinants of the quality of your life as an adult. Does that surprise you? Many people create adult […]

Sibling Strife Part 2: “Why do my siblings always do that?!”

Do you ever find yourself asking in frustration, “Why does my brother/sister always do that?!” So many questions arise when it comes to sibling relationships. It goes far beyond simple power struggles, jealousy over who has the most or best toys, competition for attention, or resentment about perceived favoritism on the part of their parents. […]

Sibling Strife Part 1: Call a Truce to Coordinate Care for Aging Parents

As long as our parents are alive, a part of us remains the child. So particularly when we’re talking about our parents, it’s helpful to understand that all of the relationship issues and challenges we had as children growing up together (which we may have thought were behind us!) can rise to the surface. We have […]

Caring for Parents, Part 3: Who Comes First, Your Parents or You?

If you read the first two parts of this series, you’re starting to see the pattern here, I’m sure…. There is always a hidden – yet very helpful once uncovered – set of beliefs, assumptions and/or automatic reactions driving our decisions and behavior. Once we find out what those are, we can immediately stop letting […]

Caring for Parents Part 2: Boost Your Self-Esteem by Minding Your Own Business

On this auspicious date when Cupid shoots his arrows (and hopefully lands one on each of  us!), how would you like to know a powerful secret for being your own best Valentine? Well, today’s post contains an important key to finding and maintaining a state of self-love. I hope that the concepts it teaches stay […]

Caring For Your Parents Without Guilt and Shame – Part I

I receive many questions during the course of a week, and decided to share this particular one, and my response, since it is so universal and SO important. I know that many of you also are confronted with similar situations every day. It’s my commitment to give you all the support I can, so you […]